Today I come to you with a little vulnerability….You see, I am human and I have doubts, troubles, ‘issues’ and insecurities just like everyone else. What I also know is that I CAN get through it, and that I AM STRONG enough and SMART enough….. I AM GOOD ENOUGH.
But, why does this viscous cycle of doubt never end?
We all know we are good enough. But we also know we aren’t. But that isn’t true….at least, that is what all our friends tell us.
So how do we get it through our heads that we are actually good enough? And move forward realizing that those little ‘lies’ will always be there?
Well, to say it bluntly…..we can’t get away from the negative talk, or the insecurities, or the misalignment of truth. We can’t. It is impossible…it will always be here, always in front of our face and ALWAYS trying to tear us down.
BUT, there is this little thing called ‘entertaining the idea’.
You see, those thoughts and things that fly through our head will not go away….they will become weaker over time, but in one instant…they can become a strong force because we ‘entertained the idea’.
I know this because I experience it everyday and I am sure you do too. We can do our morning routine and start the day perfect, but then a memory pops up, a comment is stated, or a picture is seen and all of which puts insecurity in our head…..what we do in the next moment is what defines how that will make or break our day.
I have had many….way too many….days where I entertained the idea’s and thoughts in my head that are negative, not worth my time (but I give it my time), just to feel disappointed and unworthy of my true calling. EVERY DAY!
I know, for a fact, that a lot of my physical health was worse during times of my mental health being weak and sick. The times when I truly entertained the worse thoughts and played around with them in my head. I even lost sleep last night because of ‘entertaining crap’ in my head. Entertaining the ‘what ifs’ and the ‘oh my gosh, maybe ‘that’ is how it actually happened.’
We, you and me…..are a huge culprit to our own problems. I am sorry to say it so bluntly, but the ‘entertaining’ is what is hurting us. I do this daily….many thoughts go into my head that can literally ruin my day. Some days it is harder to ‘not’ entertain them than others….but I want to show you what I do.
First….I personally have to stay very busy. I have had to read books, clean, learn violin, workout, play with my kids, work and work more…. The less time I have with ‘empty’ time, the less I let those thoughts in. I am just too busy. Now, you may not be able to keep going and going, but you need to find something to occupy your time. This may be a good time for you to learn something new….start a new hobby, or find your hidden talent. Just stay busy!
Secondly….I have started to really take care of myself physically. When I get a good sweat on….the good endorphins spike and I feel so much better. Get a good sweat everyday! Even just 20-30 minutes of simple cardio will make a huge difference.
Third….GRATITUDE….yes, say and write down the things you are grateful for!
Fourth….Find a statement that is strong, that you can remember, and that stops the thoughts in it’s tracks….Here is mine: “That is NOT me anymore” – then I move on….Believe me, IT WORKS!
Lastly….get support from SUPPORTIVE people. Find someone you trust and truly listens. AND, if you are the person someone reaches out to…..be COMPASSIONATE! Don’t start saying “oh, I know exactly how you feel.” Then proceed to spit out all your problems….LISTEN to the person asking! Your time will come when you can share and seek help but right now, YOU need to be the support. And when you can open your heart and your mind to helping someone else, it will ultimately help you!
Thank you for reading…..I have seen several people struggle this week and wanted to write this note to let you all know that you are not alone. Sometimes life sucks and thoughts just creep in but I know we have the power, within ourselves, to take charge of it and move forward!
WE GOT THIS!
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